Gaslighting Effect and Manipulations

Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time.

Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back, you wonder if your mother is right and figure that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism. 

If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from.

Are you being gaslighted? Check for these telltale signs:

Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse?

When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world?

Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar? 

Do you have trouble making simple decisions and constantly second guess yourself?

Do you frequently make excuses for your partner's behavior to your family and friends?

Do you feel hopeless and joyless?

In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works, how you can decide which relationships can be saved and which you have to walk away from--and how to gas proof your life so you'll never again choose a gaslighting relationship.

What is manipulation, how is it used in our everyday lives, and why is it such a prevalent force in our society?

Whether you consciously realize it or not, you use this tactic and have it used on you very often. Although some people have a negative association with the word, it isn’t always a bad thing, and can in fact help you a lot in life. Here are some of the concepts you will learn about in this book:

Automatic Mental Processes: Every single human on the planet has been conditioned to behave in certain ways as a response to particular stimuli. This is what makes us suggestible to influence and manipulation. Once you understand this process, you can use it to your benefit, and also to protect yourself from others.

Positive vs. Negative Manipulation: There are different types of manipulation, some which are beneficial to all involved, and others which are harmful and detrimental. In this book, you will learn to tell the difference between the two.

The Benefits of Positive Manipulation: Ethical manipulation, also known as persuasion or influence, is one of the most important social skills you can develop. When you master this, an entire new world opens up to you professionally, personally, and otherwise.

Protecting yourself from Negative Manipulators: There are always people out there who try to prey on others and use them for their own benefit. Once you become aware of the tactics they use, and why, you can effectively protect yourself from this happening to you. When you know what to watch for, you will never fall victim to a person like this.

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People Are The Most Important Commodity

Think about the people in your life who you can count on to encourage you to do more and be more than you might otherwise. Imagine if you had twice as many people cheering you on and supporting your success?

As human beings, we are innately social creatures. Accordingly, we are at our best when we feel a sense of belonging, community and connection to other people. But not just to any people, to people who bring out our best, and when life knocks us down, help us get back up and move on.

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Hopefully you have people like that in your life. People with whom you feel safe to confide your struggles and share your dreams. People you know you could call on any time of day to be there for you, who have your back and care enough to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard to hear. People you can trust. Deeply.

The people you surround yourself with either raise or lower your standards, shrink or expand your expectations, broaden or narrow your thinking, dampen or boost your faith in yourself.

Nobody becomes great on their own; it’s the people around you who help you grow into your full quota of brilliance. Which begs the question: Who are you surrounding yourself with?

Below are three things you can do to help you build the kind of tribe you need to thrive on your journey through life. Just beware, they’ll each require you to be brave in some way.

1. Be someone others want to hang out with.

Your vibe attracts your tribe. Be intentional about showing up as the kind of person you want to attract into your orbit. How can you expect to attract positive, proactive and authentic people if you’re not being that way yourself? You can’t.

Constantly complaining won’t attract go-getters. Forever worrying about what everyone thinks of you won’t attract free spirits. Being unwilling to take a risk won’t win the friendship of trailblazers. Being frugal with your money and tight with your time won’t attract big-hearted people who live from abundance—or it might, but they won’t hang around for long.

But if you’re committed to living authentically, speaking truthfully and elevating the spirits of those around you, you will build the rich and rewarding relationships you yearn for most. After all, how you show up in the world impacts who shows up in yours.

2. Prune your social tree.

If you’re committed to living an extraordinary life, at some point, you’ll inevitably outgrow some of the relationships you make along the way. That doesn’t mean you don’t care about the people you’ve shared a season of your life with. Perhaps many. It simply means that continuing to spend more time with them is limiting your future growth.

If you can’t share your wins with the people around you, know they don’t care or won’t celebrate them with you, then it’s time to find people who will. Whatever you do, don’t dial yourself down to lift others up. Downplaying your achievements and downsizing your goals so as not to intimidate people doesn’t serve anyone. You’ll never appease people who measure their worth based on others’ success.

If the people in your tribe right now aren’t pulling for you, it might be time to create space for people who will. 

3. Hang out where cool people gather.

Other people I met—several who had built companies worth many hundreds of millions of dollars—expanded my thinking, clarified my vision and reignited my passion. It also affirmed my belief that although amazing people might serendipitously walk into our lives, we have to do our bit to land ourselves in theirs. So figure out where the kind of people you want to hang out with spend time and go there. 

In the end, you change your tribe and your tribe changes you. Either way, make sure it’s for the better. Your life is too short and your gifts too precious to settle for less than the biggest life you are capable of living.

Quality vs Quantity Equally for Results

Quantity is equally important as quality. Did you know that the guy who sang "Kung Fu Fighting" didn't become famous because it was a good song? It was a terrible song but he sung it so many times, in so many places it became a hit song and he became famous or popular. In the Bible there is a book titled Numbers. Life is about numbers. Everything has a number. Carl Douglas was no master musician or singer. Carl didn't even have good clothing. He only had a gee on with a red sock wrapped around his head. However, Carl traveled on every Greyhound bus, bicycle, train and plane, sung in many bars and dives countless times. It became well known and now world renowned. "Numbers" matter as well as quality. They work together in unison. You can't determine how effective (quality) you have or are, if the numbers don't add up. You see, numbers never lie. 1+1 = 2 everywhere you go. We're not completely certain Carl Douglas knew any Kung Fu moves at all. 

Don't be afraid or ashamed to ask people to share, like or subscribe and spread the word about your products and services. Some may or maynot like your work. You will never know until the word gets out and spread to many walks of life. Reach out locally and universally. You never know who will benefit from the information provided. It's going to take creativity and a little courage on your part to find out. The key is to continue making yourself a more attractive person by the skills you have, the disciplines you have, the personality you’ve acquired, the character and reputation you have established, the language and speech you use—all of that refinement makes you more attractive. Personal development is the never-ending chance to improve not only yourself but also to attract opportunities and affect others. Quality is about being effective and providing value to your content. You may or may not have value in your content. However, if it only reaches a hand few that quality is lost, not because of it's content but because of its inability to reach others. A diamond is worthless unless someone finds it. 

Opportunities and success are not something you go after necessarily but something you attract by becoming an attractive/effective person. That’s why we teach development of skills. If you can develop your skills, keep refining all the parts of your character and yourself, your health, your relationships so that you become an attractive person—you’ll attract opportunity because of your effectiveness. Opportunity will probably seek you out. Your reputation will probably precede you and someone will want to do business with you. This is where the real numbers add up. - Tools that help - Web Awareness

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Selling and Business Tips To Remember

We speak to our friends and family on Facebook | Snapchat and other Social Media Networks. We gather data based on their posts, pics, videos and more.... However, when it comes to networking with clients and customers, why do we fall short? 

Client/Customer relationships are equally as important to our business ecosystem as making money is to a healthy business. Walking the walk and talking the talk is important. 

ie: If you are selling family based products why not show pics of your family business. Why not discuss with them some of the products and services you found most effective and why? Most online businesses fail because they believe if they send one link and it hits 10,000 people they presume the person will purchase. Do you know who clicked and are you reaching your audience? Analytics do not lie! Try to take time out to get to know them. Here are several ways:

  1. Email
  2. Voicemail/Phone
  3. Facebook Messenger
  4. Twitter
  5. Google
  6. Youtube
  7. Online Chat Rooms
  8. Website Chat

How often to you actually reach out without getting sidetracked by other social media traffic? When surfing the internet it can get pretty frustrating keeping your focus with all the drama, ads and friendly conversations going on around you. Try to keep this discipline or multi task to get the job done for business. 

We've added a video titled: "15 Ways To Make One Million". In this video are some useful tips you can implement in your spare time to get the ball rolling. We work with many so feel free to subscribe and like.

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If we tell ourselves something enough times, then it usually doesn't take long for us to convince ourselves it's true. This applies to what's real as well as what's unrealistic. The more you convince yourself a negative expectation is likely and worthy of focusing your attention on, the more likely you'll bring a negative result.

The bold step you're considering can have a positive result. Much depends on what you program your mind to achieve. 

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Why People Fail To Make Money Online

Have you ever misplaced something and it was staring you directly in the face or found exactly where it was left? Well, making money online is the same way because although you have been given all the hiding places, you remain seated because it has not caught your attention. We hope that we can clear things up today. 

There are types of income currently in demand. One income, the mass majority is doing currently. It's called ACTIVE income. You go to work daily and based on your skill sets you work a 9 to 5 and get paid an hourly rate of pay based on the time put in. It's also based on what that Company is willing to pay you for your skills and there may or maynot be overtime involved. It may not be what you are truly worth but you never get more unless there's a Christmas bonus or other factors ie: A raise in pay. It's immediate and quick by the end of the week depending on Companies payroll set up. This is called ACTIVE income. Here's the formula: (Rate of pay + hours worked + skill set = Payment.)

The other is quite different. It involves work effort, skill set and the payment is for sure but based on your own merit. Your ability to get these concepts will decide whether or not you are diligent and create value for those involved in the purchasing communities. This is called PASSIVE income. Most shy away from this because it's slower and more methodical. Many give up before they get the ball rolling downhill that will accumulate over a period of time. Here's the formula: (Value product or service + audience + skill set = Payment). The key to this type of income is solely based on constant value input. Getting started is key and the many delivery systems, funnels or platforms involved to get the message delivered. So if you never get started nothing is coming in, EVER. 

It is important for you to realize that both can be achieved. People can begin with active income and branch off into passive income later and vice-a-versa. Many wealthy individuals have more than one stream or source of income. Whether it's banking investments, real property, active income;a job, passive income, government benefits....etc. The internet is passive income streams based on audience worldwide. Commitment is key and your level of skill. Generally speaking, most people give up and never see it through because it's slow although, definite. It's definite because people are helping people and getting ideas from one another minute by minute. If your product or service is good then all is well based on your delivery systems via Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube... So unless those platforms breakdown or the internet goes away, it will always be there. The internet is the new mailorder platform of 2018. 

These income streams are quite lucrative and there's no reason you can not do both. The more income streams you have, the better. This also includes mailorder. We've been informing you that all you have to do is CREATE. Create a good product or service. Create many income streams, create a buzz or audience via platforms, email marketing, vlogs, blogs, or websites. Did you know that many entrepreneurs have more than one website or blog in different genres? Providing you put in the work something is always coming in the form of payment. Most people get this wrong. You're not successful because you made a lot of money. The reverse is true. You have money because you were successful in whatever it is you are doing. No person should look at a stove and say, "give me heat" and have not put in the wood, whether it's active or passive income. 

The reasons others are making money online is they started before you, they are constant in work ethics or mastered disciplines, and they have a great product or service that provides value.  This passive income was made in the past and therefore now paying off in their future. They have several income streams of traffic and built an unstoppable audience worldwide. So what do you want to create? What are you passionate about? This is important because you're gonna be doing it for a very long time. With this worldwide audience there's enough cash flow for everyone. The sky's the limit on cash flow! Why? Because millions of people are being born every single day all over the world, so don't forget to advertise. Build it and they will come is a myth. If you don't tell anyone, no one is coming. It's all about the traffic and the hashtags. Hashtags make things sticky and shareable. 

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Ways To Improve

We can all go from wherever we are to wherever we want to be. You’ve just gotta fight for it. How dramatically we can change our results is largely a function of imagination. With that one bold challenge, the impossible became a reality. The same principle applies to every area of your life.

Can a poor person become wealthy? Of course! The unique combination of desire, planning, effort and perseverance will always work like magic. The question is not whether the formula for success will work, but rather whether the person will work the formula. That is the unknown variable. This is the challenge that confronts us all. We can all go from wherever we are to wherever we want to be. No dream is impossible provided we first have the courage to believe it.

That's how you conquer them. Don't dismiss them; face them. Say, Here's what I'm afraid of. I wonder what I could do to change that. Face your fears now.

You don't have to keep doing what you've been doing for years if it's not yielding the benefits. Pick a new destination, goal and go that way. Use your willpower to start the process. You don't have to repeat last year. Clean up the errors. Invest it now for the years ahead. Watch the difference.

Sometimes you have to admit them to others. "I apologize." Those words could start a whole new relationship. They could start two people going in a whole new direction. Admit your mistakes to yourself. You don't have to babble about them to everyone in the neighborhood. But it doesn't hurt to sit down and have a conversation with yourself and say, "There's no use kidding myself." Here's where I really am. I've got pennies in my pocket and I've got nothing in the bank. I don't want this to happen anymore.

Start the process. Set some higher goals. Reach for some higher purpose. Go for something beyond what you thought you could do.

You've got to believe in the possibilities. You've got to believe that tomorrow can be better than today. Believe in yourself. There isn't a skill you can't learn; there isn't a discipline you can't try; there isn't a class you can't take; there isn't a book you couldn't read.

Ask for wisdom that creates answers. Ask for wisdom to deal with the challenges for today and tomorrow. 

Don't be a time waster. Manage your time properly and conservatively. It's your most precious commodity because it allows you to be more productive, creative and make more money. 

Wages make you a living, profits make you a fortune. Could we start earning profits while we make a living? Yes you can.

You might as well turn it up a notch or two. Invest more of you in whatever you do. Be a little stronger; be a little wiser. Step up your vitality contribution. Put everything you've got into everything you do and then ask for more vitality, more strength and more vigor, more heart and more soul. Take care of your health.

If you just work at a job, find the best place you can serve well, and sure enough they'll ask you to occupy a better place. Keep doing a job well; do the very best you can. That's your best way out.

Integrity is like loyalty. You can't demand it of someone else; you can only demand it of yourself. Be the best example of loyalty and you'll get loyal followers. Lead the way.

I can't give you much better advice than that because disciplines create reality. Disciplines build cities. A well-disciplined activity creates abundance, uniqueness and productivity.

It’s extraordinary to be able to say: “I fought for my kids; I fought for what was right; I fought for good health; I fought to protect my business; I fought for a good career that would bless my family. I fought the good fight.” If you want something valuable, you've got to fight for it.


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Self Improvement Checklist

Every once in a while you should look in the mirror or take stock of your life. Just like counting inventory for a store, you should do the same with your life's plans or goals. Make a complete assessment of where you are and where you are going. Why? In order to not mark time or waste it. All of this can be done in a relaxed calm way. There's no rush but it is a necessary component. 

Below is a Self Improvement Checklist video. If you think you need to take stock, revise or innovate, just simply make the necessary adjustments. Start by writing things down and not stress yourself out by keeping all the information in your head. Stress can be crippling and schedules and can be tedious, so write things down in your notepad, ipad, journal or daily planner. Get organized!

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Health is Wealth Too!

  • Life is work and Life is a daily challenge. As human beings, we are designed for arduous training both mentally and physically in order to grow. There's no way around hard, hard work. If it never rained you wouldn't be able to recognize and appreciate the sunny days. It's just that simple.

  • Exercising and eating healthy is very important in maintaining your stamina. It wards off many diseases and boosts your confidence. The closer you get to a healthier lifestyle the better you feel overall. Even the sex is better because you feel better both inside and out. There's no need to knock yourself out, trying to be a knock-out. However, you can do things at your comfort level. Start slow and work up to bigger challenges. If you need a doctor's involvement to get you the right nutrition, and mindset, every bit helps. Even Personal Trainers at local gyms can be of assistance. There's no shame in asking for help to complete goals. Mentors can always use new students just remember that. Keep track of eating habits and push away from the table. Learn to say NO! Earn what you eat. If you haven't done the work, then why stuff your face as if you did? Don't overstuff because you've put in the work, either. Never lie to yourself. Do the workouts!

  • Motivate your exercise and set goals to knock down one by one then create new ones. Play encouraging music during workouts at home. Turn off the TV set, put cell phone on vibrate and focus on you for a change. Start the motivation process by looking in the mirror to see results of your journey. Buy new clothing as the weight decreases and ego boosts. Try to stay away from the dreaded household scale until you have routines and disciples downpat. Scales can be deceiving and an ego buzzkill. Why? Because our bodies retain water and this can be mistaken for body fat on a scale. It will make you feel that your efforts are pointless. You'll know what's up, because you'll see it in the mirror. No fancy equipment required. Lol

  • If you don't take yourself serious, then why should anyone else? This is your personal journey. You don't need to advertise on Facebook to friends, get approval from spouse, nor do you need folks around you to enable and distract you. It's your own personal journey. Believe in yourself and know where you are going and what you'd like to achieve. Dedicate each day to achieving efforts, write your goals down and results will come. Work in secret or solitude and let the results speak for themselves. 💪💪

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